Controlling and Communication With Teenagers

Teenagers nowadays are very different from our time and before.

I have a teenaged son who is very rebellious, naive and stubborn. I find that communications plays a very important role in controlling him but it is easier said than done. This son of mine was brought up in a broken family where from the age of about 9 nine years old, his custody was given to his dad. From young, he is not closed to his dad and he is very afraid of him, instead of respecting him.

Recently, when he was about 16 years old, he ran away from his dad (not the first time) and I got hold of him (as usual) with no choice, I forcefully took him back to be with me. From then on, I am really in a fix of handling, controlling and communicating with him. I find that he loves to be in the gangsterism, wants face, no confidence and he would die for his 'brothers' and friends as compared to his own mum who was pregnant and gave birth to him! He believes, listens and trust them more than me as though as I would lead him the wrong way/road of his life.

Help! I have used the soft and hard approach, both without any improvements.